The kindest word in all the world is the unkind word, unsaid.
~ Author Unknown
Older men are to be sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness.
~ Titus 2:2
Unkind words are one thing, words of truth are another. I was reading someone’s comments on a friend’s Facebook page. There was a photo of a lovely young woman speaking to a man all dressed in black. He is a rock star and was performing in a benefit for a local organization. The first three remarks were nice ones and then there was that next remark. It wasn’t much, but it was critical. Spoken without thinking, or in this case, typed without much thinking, but sadly very typical in this region in the past 30 plus years. The short lesson here is, think. Once you put it on Facebook, or in the ears of another, it is there. In the case of Facebook, it is forever. In the greater recording studio in heaven, it is as well.
But the focus I was heading towards was this; there was a man in our congregation who made it a habit to let his hands “slip” when hugging the women in the church. The first time it happened to me, I thought it was a mistake, the second time I thought it was an accident, but quickly thereafter it became apparent that it was a studied habit, and a weakness of that individual. Needless to say I avoided hugs from this man. He was a pillar of the church, in the “old school” way. He was a respected member of the community, so I was afraid to say something to our pastor at the time. But eventually I gained confidence because my daughters were coming up.
Truly, “If you see something say something” is not just about packages and luggage unattended. It is also about inappropriate behavior, left unchecked, unreported.
Let your words be truthful and kind where you can, and when you have to report something, do it for your sake, and for the sake of others. It is one of the kindest things you can do for the offender, that others may pray for them.
Because of Him,