“I have spread my dreams under your feet
tread softly, because you tread on my dreams.”
~ William Butler Yeats, “He wishes for the cloths of heaven,” 1899
“Don’t bargain with God. Be direct. Ask for what you need. This is not a cat-and-mouse, hide-and-seek game we’re in. If your little boy asks for a serving of fish, do you scare him with a live snake on his plate? If your little girl asks for an egg, do you trick her with a spider? As bad as you are, you wouldn’t think of such a thing—you’re at least decent to your own children. And don’t you think the Father who conceived you in love will give the Holy Spirit when you ask him?”
~ Luke 11:10-13
We grow up, watching our parents, choosing the things we don’t like about the way they “parent us” claiming “I will never do that when I am a parent. And then we become parents.
We may not do the things we dreaded that our parents did, but somehow we come up with our own special glitch. Some that make our own children say, “When I am a parent, I will never do that.” We try to step outside of our worst nightmares and do wonderful things for our children, and those are not to be discounted, but we also say things out of fear, hope, anger, dreams we never fulfilled that guide or sting our children. Then they say, “I’ll never do that when I have kids.”
The bottom line is: we all make wonderful choices, and awful mistakes. It is so hard to give ourselves a break, and not focus on the things that hurt, the things that we would do differently. The one thing that redeems us (my opinion) is that we have trained our children to know and love God, who is the perfect parent, the perfect friend.
That is a wonderful thing. When they look up, when they get to know God, God will fill in the gaps that we have missed, remove the splinters (if they allow it) that they have gotten caught on.
Lord, you’re a good good Father and we thank you for straightening our course, tending our wounds, healing our hearts.